Should You Ask Your Partner To Spend The Holidays With You? Experts Weigh In

"Spending the holidays together is generally an intimate activity that communicates you care about someone and intend to deepen the relationship," marriage counselor Brent Sweitzer, LPC, tells Bustle. "But don't assume it means the same thing to your partner as it does to you."
Some people may see this as the next big step in the relationship, and others might see it as just another thing you can do together. It's important to talk to your partner about your feelings and expectations. It can even open up a discussion about your family's traditions and unspoken family rules. "This will set in place good communication habits for both of you about expectations (particularly around the holidays), regardless of whether the relationship becomes a fully committed one," Sweitzer says.
As nice as it would be to spend the holidays with your partner, it's important to consider if your relationship is actually ready for it first. If you feel like it's the right time, talk to your partner. Having an open discussion with your partner can help you decide what's best for your relationship this year.
Experts:
Anna Morgenstern, dating coach
Dr. Sanam Hafeez, neuropsychologist and faculty at Columbia University
Brent Sweitzer, LPC, marriage counselor
Ashley Campana, matchmaker and director of recruitment at Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking,
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